Over the past 18 years, many obstacles have threatened to crumble my homeschool. Discover three ways you can overcome obstacles in your homeschool.
It’s all too easy for me to sit here behind my computer screen and paint a rosy picture of our homeschool journey. I mean, really, who wants to air their dirty laundry for everyone to see?
The reality is, however, that not every day is a picnic in my homeschool. On the contrary, some days are downright atrocious, and I’d be embarrassed for anyone to be a fly on my wall.
However, even when there are obstacles in my way, it’s important to overcome them in order to continue on this homeschool journey.
I hope that by reading some of my ‘in real life’ obstacles, you’ll be encouraged to push through your hard days and keep your eye on your end goal.
Overcoming Obstacles In Your Homeschool
Obstacle #1 – Illness, Injury, and Doctors Galore!
I wrote recently about this being our toughest homeschool year yet, and it definitely ranks as my biggest obstacle to date. My 7th grader has been in physical therapy for over a year for what started as a dance injury.
Since then, her therapist has determined that she may have a bit more going on, and it has resulted in one doctor’s appointment after another.
In addition, she was sick for several weeks which has resulted in more doctor visits as we work through some food elimination diets.
Needless to say, it has thrown our homeschool into a tailspin this year. You can read more about how I’m currently working around this obstacle in my post, How to Keep Going When You’re Way Behind in Your Homeschool.
Obstacle #2: I’m my own worst enemy!
My teaching degree and classroom training has been a huge obstacle that I’ve had to overcome. I’d like to say that I’ve beat it, but it wouldn’t be the truth. The truth is that I have to remind myself to be flexible more often than I’d like.
This morning, for instance, Emma woke up at 10AM. After breakfast, she felt sick and had to go lay back down. It was noon before we ever started our homeschool day.
My gut instinct is to rush her through her day, because that’s what’s most convenient for me. It is not, however, the most conducive environment in which to learn.
After I snapped at her twice for petting the dog instead of grabbing her math book, I had to apologize. The freedom of homeschooling is that she can get a late start when she doesn’t feel well, because we can go later into the evening or even catch up on the weekend.
If I could learn to lighten up and bend a little, our homeschool days would run much smoother!
Obstacle #3: The kid who won’t work…
When my son was in third or fourth grade, he had a really rough year. He had a lot going on emotionally, and that was coupled with his already strong-willed personality. Until this year, that was my toughest year.
There were some subjects he truly struggled with, and I had to slow down and reteach a huge chunk of math before we could move on. He hated to write, so I started letting him dictate much of his written work.
On those days when his refusal to do work was flat out defiance, I had to get creative. Thank goodness for the wise counsel God surrounded me with that year, or we may not have made it.
We set up reward systems for jobs done well. We withheld extra curricular activities (basketball practice, for instance) when the work wasn’t completed in time.
Then, there was the day we can sit back and laugh about now. On this particularly hard day, I decided that I needed to instill a little tough love. After a particularly raucous tantrum, I calmly asked him to put away all of his school books because I had a job for him.
I took him in the other room (so my other kids could work in peace) and explained that if he wasn’t going to do his school work, it was my job to train him for the future. I then proceeded to pile on some down-and-dirty chores like scrubbing all the trash cans, cleaning the bathroom grout with a toothbrush, etc.
After the first chore, he was begging to go back to the schoolroom to finish his work. I held my ground, and he eventually finished all of his chores. The next day, he was more than ready to tackle his homeschool work with a great attitude. I won’t way that every day was easy after that, but that day was a lesson he didn’t soon forget.
See, we’ve had some pretty rough seasons in our homeschool. Even if you can’t relate to my exact experiences, I’m sure you’ve been faced with obstacles of your own – a new baby, a move, loss of a job, a chronic illness. How do you overcome the obstacles that threaten to crumble your homeschool?
Encouragement for Homeschool Moms
Below, I’ve featured just a handful of books meant to encourage homeschool moms that will help your readers celebrate their favorite characters. You should be able to find them at your local library or bookstore. If you can’t find them locally, you can click each image cover to purchase them on Amazon. Creating Homeschool Balance – “Creating Homeschool Balance” will help you understand what balance looks like, feels like, and how to create it. Your Goals This Year – No matter which kind of homeschool parent you are, this book will help you understand the stages of homeschooling high school, put you on the path to success, and keep you from feeling overwhelmed. You can homeschool through high school, and here are the tools to help you. Scheduling: The Secret to Homeschool Sanity – When you homeschool, it’s important to take time to plan and rest, and not just work, work, work! Using schedules in your homeschool can help you avoid burnout.
Mother of 3 says
We all certainly have them! Some days those obstacles are small; today the ENDLESS bickering and fighting drove me to snapping and leaving them all to school themselves. I then spent the rest of the day trying to figure out a way to overcome that. I still can’t decide if we need to get out of the house and spread out more of if I need to take away all outside activities and get on their cases to make a concerted effort to get along before we ever leave this house again. I just know something needs to change.
Erin @Nourishing My Scholar says
This is perfect timing for me. Our son is struggling with certain math concepts right now too and it’s very disheartening. Thank you for the encouragement! ?
Kathleen - Bloggers Lifestyle says
A job well done, you have all my respect and gratitude for raising respectable, wonderful children. I know the cost to you can be great as you dedicate yourself to the job of homeschooling. You will get your reward and I am sure your children will look back and be thankful.
Audrey says
Ha ha! I love your creative approach to “motivating” through the use of chores. I’d be afraid mine would actually enjoy the tasks. Thanks for sharing on #FridayFrivolity
Crummy Mummy says
Hats off to anyone who homeschools – I don’t know how you do it! I just wouldn’t have the patience… #justanotherlinky
Debbie says
I really wish that I had known more about homeschooling when my children were young. My boys, especially my youngest, would have benefitted so much. Thanks for sharing some of the obstacles of homeschooling on the Blogger’s Pit Stop.
Pat says
Wonderfully encouraging, Tara! Oh the obstacles we’ve faced over the years…but with each one conquered comes more resilience and wisdom and gratitude!
Thanks so much for sharing it at Coffee and Conversation last week – we’ll be featuring it tomorrow!
Carlie says
Tara, thanks for sharing so honestly. I homeschool too, and some days are just down right tough, but I keep pressing on believing that since God has called me to this journey, He will see us through it. On those days, I simply try to keep calm and shine on and always make time for God’s word. By the way, I thought your ‘chores’ solution was quite clever and effective. (smile)
Tara says
We still talk about those ‘chores’ ten years later!
Tara says
Thank you for the feature!